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Helping my daughter interpret her dreams

Has anyone had any success helping their children interpret their dreams?

My 5-year old has vivid dreams, but she's not easy to help with the interpretations. It's tough to get an answer to "what's the key emotion?" when she's 5 and stubborn ;)

Last night's emotion was easy because we woke up to hearing her cry in her sleep. Here's the dream:

"I was driving a car, and driving really fast. It was like a race.

A man was walking and didn't wait for me. He hit me and made me go backwards. I went backwards all the way back home."

Key action: getting hit by the "bad man" and being made to go backwards

Key emotion: sad

I've asked her if there's something in her life that doesn't go the way she wants it to...even asked if she was sad when she wanted to do something fun (like playing the Wii) and was instead made to clean up the room. She said no. I'm not sure where else to go from here!

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Permalink Reply by Amber McAlister on January 13, 2011 at 1:03pm

That's cute ! ~ My first thought is , does she play race car games..?

The man hit her she did'nt hit the man. I find that interesting too.

Did she say that he was a bad man ?

She may believe that she was being

disciplined for going too fast and that is why she went back home.

In her mind she was being disciplined. This is just what I think.

I used to cry in my sleep once in a while when I was a child. ~ very powerful emotions.

Once I dreamed that I was at the park going down the slide and I fell off.

Here is something that you would think is not much of a dream at all ~

but I woke up crying. It's all about control. I felt that I had no control

of my own life ~ who I was and what is best for me. Other people controlled me

and I had no protection. So naturally for a child, it would come out in a dream.

I would'nt go around it by asking her questions about her awake life.

She does not understand your inquiry. But, if you ask her

at a very convientent time ( when she is ready for bed perhaps) you can

ask her why she was driving so fast and does she think that the man

hit her because she was going too fast. Why does she think that the man

hit her and made her go back home..?? Was the man wrong or a bad man..?

(You must be an investigator and a psychologist at the same time.)

If she already forgot the dream and is happy to move on, then the

timing is off for you to ponder this with her.

She is old enough now for the two of you to start keeping a " dream log "

The two of you should create a really pretty journal book. ( a large one ) Let her color her own

colors on the outside of it anyway she wants to. Teach her to

treasure and respect this dream log book and tell her that the two of you will

use this dream log to write all of the important things and the people

of her dreams. She can draw anything she wants in this dream log

that is about her dream. You will be a best friend to her this way Carla ~

Not to say that you are not already ~ For a child, this is the best way to go.

I hope this helped some.

May God be with you,

Love Amber

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Permalink Reply by Charla Virkler on January 13, 2011 at 4:27pm

Thank you, Amber. You gave SO many wonderful thoughts.

She has been playing a racing game with us in the evenings, and she's proud of how quickly she can go, so it makes sense that she's driving a fast car.

Thanks!! I'm excited to spend more time with her on this :)

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Permalink Reply by Louise McNeil on January 13, 2011 at 4:17pm

To drive a car at her age, and then on top of that, to drive it "really fast" is revealing that she feels she has more control of her lifes activities and feels more mature/responsible than she really is capable of being. With her control being suppressed (the man making her go backwards) this would bring anybody who has stubborn tendancies to tears (I would think that these would be tears of frustration instead of true sadness). The man represents, most likely, anyone of authority. Being pushed all the way back "home" represents being forced back to her true life position as a five year old within the family, and back to her proper level of responsibility and authority.

Sounds like you were on the right track in questioning her. But, I may have used the word mad or stressed instead of "sad". It may help to ease her inner stress by limiting the asking of her opinion on things, or asking for her to make choices/decisions that you may not be aware of as being too big for her.

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Permalink Reply by Charla Virkler on January 13, 2011 at 4:26pm

Wow! That's so true!! And yes, you're right, frustration would make a LOT more sense than sadness! Thank you!!

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Permalink Reply by Louise McNeil on January 13, 2011 at 8:06pm

Your'e welcome...anytime. God bless you and your little one.

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Permalink Reply by Newsette on January 22, 2011 at 3:07pm

I missed this one.... Kids are so sharp in their memory at that age. I would have to agree with what you already know... Her doing the driving shows that she is in control instead of the Holy Spirit. Being self willed... stubborn as you say. The Holy Spirit is either showing her that she is trying to get ahead of what the Spirit is doing in her life; or she feel's that others are keeping her from achieving. It's your job to find out if she just needs patience or restraint from using control. I hear pealing oranges slowly teaches patience. :}

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Permalink Reply by Pastor McDonald Chanda on August 3, 2011 at 2:32am

Well at start with coming back home shows the importance of family in her life. After be hit by the bad she backward up to home. Make your home where the children will come to in there bad moments.