marriage issues and hearing God

Hello,

I am fairly new to the spiritual life of my relationship with Jesus.  I am trying to hear Him and His direction/will for my life, but find that I am not hearing, as I am still torn as to what to do. I feel like I am focusing on the wrong things and that is why I am stuck.

I am married to an emotionally abusive man.  His behavior the last 4 months has gotten much, much better though.  He has said and done very cruel things to me over the years.  While I can forgive him, I am still afraid of him treating me that way again.  A huge part of me wants to leave him.  I believe I do have biblical grounds.  The other part of me wants to stay for 2 reasons.  First, we have a young child together.  Second, if he really is changing by the grace of God, I want to stay. I love him, just not the abusive parts of him.

I have been in limbo and am tired of it.  I feel so stagnant.  I have been in prayer, reading like crazy. I asked the Lord if He has released me.  I got a picture in my mind of 3 wooden 2 x4's being lifted from a muddy pond.  I feel that He has told me that my husband dissolved our marriage covenant by his abuse towards me.

My prayer request: that I can clearly hear God, and not mistake it for my own voice or the enemy. That I am given the knowledge to know how to get unstuck.  

Thank you!